About Caroline Furcolo, Therapist for Men
I’m Caroline, founder of Blue Horse Counseling & Consulting, a private-pay practice.
I work with men in high-profile careers dealing with compulsive sexual behaviors, public fallout, trauma, and the shame that comes with it all.
My clients carry a heavy weight
And you're doing it alone.
No matter what's going on in your life - or in your mind - it will not be the wildest thing I’ve heard this week.
I meet you without judgement because showing up here takes more courage than anyone realizes.
When you're ready to make changes, we start with your first session.
What Are Sessions Like?
Everything's focused on your needs & goals. You'll hear questions that make you think, then get space to sit with them...
Clients appreciate that I’m as comfortable with discomfort as I am with a joke.
When needed, I name the invisible things coming up and help you see what's going on.
We develop trust through an ongoing relationship because what brought you here didn't happen overnight.
There's a name for the fact that men are raised not to express feelings: The White Horse Complex.
It's the idea that a man is supposed to ride in to save everyone else and never be the one who needs help.
It limits their ability to have meaningful relationships.
This is why I work specifically with men. Because while you want connection, to feel understood, and to be less burdened…
You carry concerns, fear, shame, and loneliness - and do it in total isolation.
Your pressure-filled life weighs you down & causes high blood pressure, sexual dysfunction, chronic stress, trouble sleeping, and deep fatigue.
You have less energy for your family, lose interest in hobbies you love, and possibly drink, scroll for hours, or numb out.
Clients find me because of a last-straw moment. Or their doc says it's time…or else. Or a spouse finds some dicey browser history.
It doesn’t have to be this way, and your life doesn’t have to be this hard.
Why This Work Matters Now
How I came to this work:
As the first and only female employee on an oyster farm, I spent five days a week on a boat with no bathroom through icy Rhode Island winters with a crew of crude guys.
They taught me how long it takes a man to trust someone & open up. And how much he wants to, even though he's raised not to.
Probably my best lessons came from being raised with brothers in a CFO-dad house, where acquisitions, image, expectations, and pressure were the foundations of success...
Which is where I learned how isolated men are with all they carry.
It's how I became a bridge, giving these guys the safety to get what they really want: support, understanding, connection. Without judgment.
I work with men because it not only lifts them up, it also serves the women & families around them.
So if you wonder, "How's this all gonna work with a female therapist?"
My experiences make me an unflappable straight-shooter who understands the world my clients live in. I come without criticism.
And I love a good joke. It's what makes the hard conversations possible.
Looking for the formalities?
Caroline Furcolo, LMHC, LPC, Education & Training:
M.A. Clinical Mental Health Counseling- Northwestern University
B.S. in Psychology- University of Rhode Island
EMDR Certified
Certified Clinical Trauma Professional
Advanced post-graduate trainings in complex- trauma, compulsive sexual behaviors, men’s issues, shame & imposter syndrome
I provide teletherapy in Texas, New York, Connecticut, and Rhode Island.
FAQs:
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Sessions are rooted in psychodynamic therapy – how your unconscious beliefs drive your current situation without you choosing to steer the wheel in that direction.
Internal Family Systems (IFS), which treats the mind as different parts or versions of yourself, each with its own needs, wants, and beliefs.
Somatic Therapy is how we pay attention to the information the body is telling you. Memories get stored in the body as ailments or specific sensations, and we process them because they’re the connecting thread.
We seek to understand how all of it together shapes your current thoughts, feelings, and behavior today, so you can make changes that last, which is the point of all this and why I also incorporate EMDR therapy.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based therapy that helps the brain reprocess painful or stuck experiences so they lose their charge.
Instead of talking in circles, EMDR targets the roots — trauma, shame, and the beliefs driving compulsive patterns — and helps them finally settle.
As an EMDR-certified therapist with a background in complex trauma and CPTSD, I use it to help clients move past what keeps repeating.
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With self-pay, you as the client have more privacy and freedom. We can meet as often as you like, and there's no one to report to.
Additionally, there's no need for me to give you a Diagnosis Code. This means you can access therapy and nothing needs to "be wrong with you", which is what insurance requires.